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As the Jewish New Year approaches, Connecticut’s Supreme Court clarifies it’s stance on the ketubah (religious marriage contract) and divorce …

The principal issue in this appeal requires us to consider the extent to which a Connecticut court may enforce the terms of a ‘‘ketubah,’’ which is a contract governing marriage under Jewish law, without entangling itself in religious matters in violation of the first amendment to the United States constitution …

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10 Tips to Co-Parent Successfully During and After Divorce (Psychology Today)

Your children will benefit from successful co-parenting. The benefits will be seen in their success at school and in their secure relationships, good coping strategies, stable mental health, and positive relationships with each of their parents. This is what all parents hope for, and what children need to thrive in life.

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The Hidden Danger of the Homicidal Narcissist. (Psychology Today by Joni E. Johnston Psy.D.)

From a psychological standpoint, a person with a narcissistic personality disorder is dependent upon external sources to constantly validate, affirm, reassure and reinforce their idealized version of themselves. So it would make sense that a threat to their ego or public image, or an interpersonal rejection, would be most threatening to this person - and most dangerous to others.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: 10 Tips From a Therapist (by Nicole Arzt, LMFT)

Divorcing someone with NPD can be challenging and emotionally exhausting. Prepare yourself for a difficult journey. But keep in mind that staying in an unhappy or toxic marriage has worse consequences, both in the short-term and long-term. Knowing what to expect can help you feel more empowered during this process.

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Playing Favorites Gives a Narcissistic Co-Parent Control (Pyschology Today)

Narcissistic co-parents are often manipulative from the start. Typically, they play the victim and triangulate, aligning the kids with them and against the emotionally healthy parent. Playing favorites is an additional way the narcissistic parent triangulates and unscrupulously gains emotional control of the kids.

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What We Can Learn From This Revolutionary Divorce Court. (Psychology Today)

in Cecil County, they are the heroes whose voices cut through the fog of acrimony. There, Judge Jane Cairns Murray (who has since retired) and Family Support Services Coordinator Nolanda Robert created a safe place for children to speak their minds, while parents listen with the support of attorneys and mediators.

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Can consensual non-monogamy aid marriages.

“an increasing number of my patients turn to non-monogamy as a way of fixing broken relationships. This is a strategy that almost never succeeds: “Our relationship doesn’t work? Let’s add more people!” {Marty Klein, Ph.D.}

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Co-Parenting After Divorce? Avoid These 4 Loyalty Traps (Psychology Today)

I have never met parents who didn’t love their children. Parents almost always agree on one thing: they want their children to thrive. “We want what is best for them, what is in their best interest…” Parents may disagree about many things, or possibly everything, except this. They love their kids and hope that the children won’t suffer because of their parents’ divorce.

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Divorce Is Hard. Here’s How You Can Help Those Going Through One (NY Times)

According to a 2013 longitudinal study headed by Brown University scholar Rose McDermott, if people in your close social network divorce, the risk of your marriage ending greatly increases. This may partially explain why those in marriage meltdowns find themselves abandoned by their nearest and dearest. But loved ones disappearing may also be because they just don’t know how to help.

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Is Passive Aggressive Behavior A Response To Aggressive Behavior In Child Custody Disputes? - Forbes

Aggression is defined as a form of physical or verbal behavior leading to self- assertion; it is often angry and destructive and intended to be injurious, physically or emotionally and aimed at domination of one person by another. It may arise from innate drives and/or be a response to frustration and may be manifested by overt attacking and destructive behavior, by covert attitudes of hostility and obstructionism, or by a healthy self-expressive drive to mastery.

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Your Child Is Struggling. Could Your Marriage Be to Blame? - Psychology Today

Well-documented research cites trauma, socioeconomic status, education, peer effects, parental bonding, nutrition, and sleep habits as clear contributors to a child’s overall health outcomes. But one unique area of research — and one not often addressed — has shown that the role of the parental couple’s relationship also has a hugely significant effect on the health of their children.

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